INSPIRE – A Power Word for Every Day

INSPIRE – A Power Word for Every Day

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In 2011 this word came crashing into my life as being central to everything I am about. I had the privilege of meeting Thomas Power from the UK, in person, in Sydney. Thomas spent an hour with me taking me through a guided session that resulted in bringing everything that drives me down to two words.

Those 2 words were: Inspiring Solutions.

Thomas’ instructions to me were to treat those two words as key to everything I do and I started from that moment on to build my personal brand around ‘Inspiring Solutions’.  A few months later I set up my first LinkedIn profile and used my new ‘core words’ to create the following statement:

 

“Passionate, energetic and dynamic, I am all about inspiring solutions through international business development and helping others network and connect effectively.”

 

From 2011 and even more so today, ‘Inspiring Solutions’ is my benchmark for everything I share on-line, everything I tweet about, like, re-share, post, comment on and for offline face to face networking conversations, discussions, topics I will talk about and even people I choose to associate with. If it is aligned with inspiring solutions, I am there. If it is not then I politely choose to exit or change the subject and I like to think I honestly manage this most of the time.

 

The simple word ‘inspire’ and all its variations, inspiring, inspiration, inspirational, have taught be more about life, about attitudes towards business and pleasure, about people, about positive change that focus on 2 key words brings, than I ever would have thought possible.

My favourite definition of the verb to inspire is

To fill with an animating, quickening or exalting influence; to fill with enlivening or exalting emotion

 

I have discovered the power of choosing to become inspiring and have been on a mission for the last couple of years to inspire others to choose the same. This personal purpose statement that I created at a workshop led by Jan Haldane is a powerful reminder: ‘My purpose is to express my passion, energy and drive to inspire, connect and build engaging networks with people and businesses.

 

I could write all day about this amazing little word inspire but I will choose to finish off with some of a key note that I wrote and delivered as part of a Corporate Series led by Cam Calkoen in 2014:

“Inspiring people are attractive. They ooze something which the rest of us want – they feed us, challenge us, and energise us. We want to follow them, know them, and be associated with them.

In choosing to become inspiring, you will choose to become one of those people who others gravitate towards. They will share your posts, like your blogs and updates, will connect with you, follow you, meet face to face with you, attend events you are at, introduce you to others and look to build some kind of relationship with you.

So inspire those around you and find others who inspire YOU. Build your network around these 2 points and you will have loyal connections who will bring others who they think would be inspired by or resonate with you AND you will be doing the same for those connections who inspire you.

It’s all about GIVE and TAKE. Giving comes first.”

 

Jayne Albiston
Director
Business over Breakfast (BoB) Clubs Australia & New Zealand

FOCUS – A Power Word for Every Day

FOCUS – A Power Word for Every Day

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In April 2008, I bought a book at the airport as I was boarding a long haul flight. It was entitled, ‘The Power of Focus’ by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen and Les Hewitt. I read it cover to cover on the plane, not realizing how much it was literally going to change my outlook on both my business and personal life.
I learned that,“It’s all about focus. The main reason most people struggle professionally and personally is simply lack of focus.

I learned that, ‘my habits will determine my future’ and that ‘it takes focused action, personal discipline and lots of energy every day to make things happen’.

The word ‘Focus’ became my mantra for 2008 and it guided me through what turned out to be an extremely challenging but rewarding year.  Another best selling author Brian Tracy claims that, ‘Your ability to focus is the most important success skill you can ever develop.’
Over the last 8 years, I have continued my journey both personal and business, learning the power of focus, seeing both successes and failures but all the while learning more and more the fact that much more is achieved when we focus instead of spreading ourselves too thinly or trying to target everyone, ending up targeting no one.

Focus is potent, undiluted and it attracts.

JF Kennedy said, “Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.

It is timely that now for 2016, ‘focus’, meaning having a central point of attention, is one of our key words to drive our business growth across our Business over Breakfast (BoB) Club network in Australia and New Zealand.

Focus clarifies, cuts out the distractions and provides a constant reminder of what you set out to do, who you set out to be and where you set out to go and it is focus that keeps you on the track to get there.
Focus narrows it all down, brings a simplicity and a strength. It un-complicates you and your brand. When you have focus, others can see that and are attracted to the power that brings.

Focus is and will always remain in our list of key words to drive us forward both personally and professionally. If you have not embraced ‘focus’ and its power in your personal and business life, then I strongly encourage you to do so today. We welcome comments and questions.

 

Jayne Albiston
Director
Business over Breakfast (BoB) Clubs Australia & New Zealand

RESPECT – A Power Word for Every Day

February 25, 2016 – Jayne Albiston

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This year we have 24 key words that we are applying directly to our business. They have particular meaning because we have taken them from our personal collection of words that we use to inspire and drive our lives forward.

In no particular order, I will be commenting on one of these words every couple of weeks and they will appear in our company newsletter each month. These comments are my own and I would welcome any additional insight, inspiration or feedback that you may have on them, including any experiences that you may have had along your business journey so far.

 

The second word is RESPECT…

When thinking on the word, respect a few things come to mind straight away. Firstly the thought that we all like to be treated with respect and secondly that we all like to be respected and we often enjoy respecting someone else.
The interesting thing is that the definition of respect in the dictionary has those two meanings of respect round the other way.  It has the feeling of ‘deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities or achievements’ first and ‘due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others’, second.

I would like to suggest that the dictionary has the meanings listed in the wrong order and even go so far as to say that perhaps it is actually our focus often on the first dictionary meaning that has resulted in a lack or absence of the second dictionary meaning and perhaps it is time we focused on re-prioritising how we embrace respect and proactively include it in our personal and business relationships and lives.

I have very rarely met anyone who has respect, as in deep admiration, for someone who does not exhibit or display due regard for the feelings, wishes or rights of others. In my personal and business experience, physically showing respect for the way in which you treat someone (the second dictionary meaning) is an absolute pre-requisite to building a successful relationship of any sort and not showing respect can do insurmountable damage in a heartbeat.

There is an old saying that is often repeated in both personal and business circles; Treat others as you would have them treat you. We know it and many of us practice it. Ever since becoming an iMA Practitioner 4 ½ years ago and learning that actually only about 25% of the world is really on the same wavelength as me in terms of how they prefer to be treated, my mantra has changed quite dramatically. I now live by ‘Treat others as they would like to be treated’, which more often than not is very different to how I would like to be treated,  given that when it comes to communication and connectivity, 75% of the world is on a different wavelength than I am.

This has a huge impact on what it means to show ‘respect’ in terms of having due regard for the feelings, wishes or rights of others. Even though  we all communicate and connect in many ways each day, at our core, all of us have a preferred way of being treated. It naturally follows that that preferred way of being treated is also our most natural way of treating others and communicating with them (possibly stemming from the idea that it is best to treat others as we would like to be treated).  How shocked I was to learn and realise that all those times I had treated someone else the way I would want to be treated, many times I was getting it very wrong and even rubbing them up the wrong way simply by being myself. What I considered to be respectful of their feelings was not and how I thought they wanted to be treated was not taken or received in the way that I had intended.  In short, I had been disrespectful, just by being my natural self.

It has been an incredible eye opener for me over the past few years to learn tangible, simple strategies through iMA (identify a person’s preferred way of communicating and being treated, modify your message so it is more effectively received and adapt to and appreciate the differences in others) to enable me to learn how to really show respect for others. It will take me a life time of practice but I now have the skills to be able to show respect in the way I connect and communicate with others. This is, in my opinion, the crucial first step to building both personal and business relationships and getting to know, like and trust someone. If we are putting the definitions of respect in their true order, showing regard for others should definitely come first.

This second word respect is an extremely important one and my constant challenge is to put it first in every interaction I have, whether personal or business. How about you?

 

Jayne Albiston
Director
Business over Breakfast (BoB) Clubs Australia & New Zealand

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TRUST – A Power Word for Every Day

February 18, 2016 – Jayne Albiston

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This year we have 24 key words that we are applying directly to our business. They have particular meaning because we have taken them from our personal collection of words that we use to inspire and drive our lives forward.

In no particular order, I will be commenting on one of these words every couple of weeks and they will appear in our company newsletter each month. These comments are my own and I would welcome any additional insight, inspiration or feedback that you may have on them, including any experiences that you may have had along your business journey so far.

The first word is TRUST.

 

For some, trust is a loaded word and often one that can be used way too lightly or even flippantly. Jo-Anne Randall from Staples Rodway provided a timely reminder last week in her business tip at our Britomart BoB Club in Auckland that telling a client or even worse a prospect to just ‘Trust me’ before time has been taken to truly build a relationship is a big no no.

To trust, or to have a ‘firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something’ takes time and may involve shared experiences, dinner, wine, coffee, doing a great job or producing a great result over a number of months. The dictionary itself tells us that ‘relations have to be built on trust’. This is true because when you really think about it, none of us can ever know everything about a person or a professional or even a company, regardless of how much ‘research’ we might do, and let’s face it, we can do quite a lot more now than we ever could before, especially with all the online resources and platforms available. In the end there is always that gap, that gulf, that ditch that can only be crossed through trust or blind faith as some of us may call it. The risk can be small or large and the consequences also.

For those of us who approach life with a glass half full attitude and who always strive to look through slightly rose tinted glasses, we have most likely experienced both. The positives we will have grabbed with both hands while the negatives we will have put down to learning experiences and we will have moved on.  But what if those risks could be minimized in some way? What if that gap, that gulf, that ditch could be narrowed and blind faith did not have to come into play so much?

I recently read and re-read an article which talked about ‘real social networks’ and the Village Effect. According to Susan Pinker, a Canadian Clinical Psychologist, the benefits of ‘social integration with a regular diverse group of people and social intimacy – being with people you can depend on, the ones who have your back when the going gets tough’ are phenomenal and some claim are pointing towards being the secret of living a long and healthy life.

When thinking on TRUST and the premise that ‘relations have to be built on trust’, it naturally makes sense to see that including organized social integration and intimacy in one’s personal and business life would have positive outcomes and repercussions.

Susan Pinker says; ‘Whether you live in a village, a city or the country, you have to have a diverse group of people you meet on a regular basis’.

I am privileged and honoured to be the Australia/NZ Director of an amazing organization called ‘Business over Breakfast’. I literally get to meet every day for breakfast with an incredibly diverse range of people and over time we form quality relationships through a process of getting to know, like and trust eachother. The know and the like ALWAYS come before the trust and reminding myself of this fact has paid off for me personally and business wise in many ways over recent years.

Whether it is a Business over Breakfast (BoB) Club or another group of people or business professionals you meet with on a regular basis, building relationships over time has an astounding impact on the size of that gap, that gulf, that last leap of faith in trusting someone and then also in trusting those who they introduce you to. I think if we are honest, all of us recognize TRUST as being an important, often crucial element in our personal and business success. Many of us steer away or try to avoid it, having experienced ‘broken’ trust in the past.

Recognising that quality relationships and social connectivity are literally the fibre of our future, it makes sense to take a fresh look at trust; how we use the word, how we build trust or break it, how we make it part of the glue in our personal and business brands and in our approach, communication and interpersonal relations.

So how about taking the challenge this year to embrace trust, find ways to meet up regularly with a diverse range of people and professionals and start to build those quality relationships, the kind that will see you living a long healthy life and benefiting from the business success that can only come through trust that stands the test of time. Let me know how you go.

 

Jayne Albiston
Director
Business over Breakfast (BoB) Clubs Australia & New Zealand

LinkedIn  www.BoBClubs.co.nz  www.PlusOneDynamics.com