The Shy Guy Guide to Effective Networking

By Vinness Callope Bilon

04 Feb 2014


You walk in a room filled with people talking proudly of themselves. It’s another day for networking. You then grasp for air and begin to have butterflies on your stomach. It is time to speak up. But how? You try your best to hope that a big hole on the floor would suddenly swallow you. No such luck. So you sulk and wonder how can a shy guy like you make it good in networking?

Now, relax. You should have spent your night preparing for such big event. That means getting a copy of all attendees and to already identity the people to target. You should have also decided on a question to ask them so they remain interested in you. And, you should have not forgotten to prepare your introductory lines.

The right opening line can make a big difference. This can determine if whether or not you will catch the interest of people within the meeting. And, do not forget to pair all the talking with a firm handshake and an eye contact.

Be very careful with how you introduce yourself. While a shy guy may want to do everything just to appear confident, however, this does not go like “Hi, I am John Doe of XYZ Consulting firm. So tell me, how do you feel about running the biggest oil mining company in the world?” This will most likely trigger disbelief. So instead of appearing like an airhead, act naturally and friendly. Be relaxed and social.

Talk to each prospective client as if you are building a relationship instead of selling anything. Once you are able to connect with the client like a friend, you can do the marketing after. Some networkers however would get too excited and jump into their marketing pitch right ahead. While the latter option can also be effective for some but for a shy type like you, it is best to remain careful with your moves.

Never speak like you are promoting yourself to the client. Although culture may have something to do with this but it would be better to be on the safe side. In America for example, self-promoting is alright but in Australia, you might be seen ridiculous by doing this.

Next question, should you arrive early or late for a function? There is a great debate behind this question. Some think that arriving early may mean that you do not have any nice thing to do. Like you are not busy with any business venture, therefore you can afford to be there on time. Nonetheless, for some, arriving late can mean very unprofessional. But for an entry level networker like you do, it is better to arrive early. This way, you can warm up and get a feel of the place. This will also give afford you the opportunity to be introduced by the host to other attendees.

Attach a nametag to your clothing at the right side of your body. As people shake your hand, they will be able to read your name and may even recall it in the future. Do not let a conversation go more than five minutes. Talking too long can be an obstacle for you to better go around and meet more prospective clients. Also, do not let your eyes wander around the room as you talk with someone. This can be offending.

Follow all these tips so you can change yourself from a shy guy to the man who rocks the networking world!

Respect Is Earned And Not Given

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Respect is earned, not given. It doesn’t matter whether you are looking for respect from your friends, coworkers, or even kids, it absolutely must be earned. There are ways to earn respect. Here are six ways to earn the respect of those around you.

Grant Dickson‘s insight:

100% agree with Kristy, earning respect is a must in the workplace if a team is to be cohesive and effect!

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6 Ways to Build a Great Team of Brand Ambassadors

By Rian Donatelli

14 Jan 2014

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“Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.”?- Vince Lombardi

Brand Ambassadors sometimes work individually, but they are often in pairs or part of a team. It is imperative that everyone can work well together to ensure the success of the event. While it can be easy to create a team, it is difficult to create effective ones. Below are some things to take into consideration.

1) Similar but different. Look for people with the same goal in mind but different interests and strengths as each other. Find out what their strengths are early on to be able to place them in a fitting position. Diversity is key and will give your group many different points of views.

2) Respect one another. It is critical to remember that even though someone else may have a different opinion than you, that you should still respect him or her. Be open to others and think about where they might be coming from. Also remember to use your manners when working together.

3) Familiarize. Get to know your team members. Commitments will be followed through. Teams that know each other well and that are friendly with each other will be less likely to flake out on one another and more willing to support each other.

4) Communicate. Be clear and delegate tasks. These tasks should be established from the beginning. As time goes on, make sure everyone is on track of what their role is and how they can contribute to the team. A great way to do this is to have a set meeting or conference call schedule to evaluate any problems progress, or questions.

5) Restructure if needed. Take note of what is working and what is not working. You could potentially use what is working in other areas. If something isn’t working well at an event, think of ways to get consumers interested. Come up with ideas together, gain approval from your management and execute.

6) Motivate. Whether you’re a team leader or a member of the team, be sure to motivate each other and encourage each other when you see someone doing a good job. Enthusiasm is contagious!

Vince Lombardi couldn’t have said it better – if everyone strives to do the best job they can, the entire group will benefit. By implementing these recommendations your team will be well on their way to success. Look at other teams or groups you are a part of and see if you can improve them with these tips as well.